When obstacles appear, what do we do with them? Excuses are easy to come by.
The difference between those who have a winning attitude and those who do not is in how they handle the obstacle. Remember: only 3 percent will succeed, and 97 percent are left behind.
To have a winning attitude, you must take full responsibility for whatever happens.
We’re going to stumble and even fail at some point along the way. But those who make it – do you know what sets them apart? They get up!
They don’t get stuck complaining. There are no excuses about why. There is some serious self-evaluation into what happened and how they could have done it differently. See the difference? They are looking for the changes they could have made, not finding external excuses. They are looking inward, and they are looking at their own actions to make changes in their lives.
It’s not what happens that determines your success – it’s what you do with what happens.
When we focus on the circumstance and not on the action, we are defeated. By focusing on the action, we are moving our minds toward the goal. It is forward movement, while complaining brings us to a standstill.
Eventually, complaining will become so self-defeating that we will start to blame the world around us. Complaining starts small and grows like cancer. It begins with, “If only I’d had the opportunity my neighbor had; then I’d be a success,” and grows into all the reasons why that opportunity never came our way. In the meantime, our thoughts are so clouded that we can’t see the opportunity in front of us.
When opportunity arrives, our mind is conditioned to see the negative, and it cannot conceive the possibility of success.
Suddenly, before we’ve even given the new idea a chance, we’ve conceived twenty scenarios for failure. And we never begin.
A winning attitude does the opposite.
A winning attitude conditions the mind for opportunity by taking full responsibility for previous failures, turning them into learning opportunities. The potential for success is exciting. The potential for failure means there is more opportunity for growth.
A failure is not the end. A failure is only a stepping-stone toward greater success. It is a learning tool for the next opportunity that comes.
To develop a winning attitude, you and I must:
- Take full responsibility for successes and failures.
- Self-evaluate and adjust as necessary.
- Be unwilling to lose.
- Try, try, and try again.
- Foster an optimistic outlook and banish complaining.
“We can complain because rosebushes have thorns or rejoice because thorns have roses.” – Alphonse Karr
It’s time to stop complaining. It’s time to see the opportunities in front of you.
When you’re tempted to complain, take action instead. Do something about the issue in front of you and then move on.
Complaining is consuming. It wraps its talons around your mind and won’t let go. It takes the hope and fire out of your spirit. Don’t let it control you. Fight back. Regain your dreams.
Choose to be resilient.
Choose to find the solution.
Choose to remember each and every blessing.
Start with gratitude. Thank the people around you – for even the tiniest of things. Challenge yourself to go 24 hours without complaining. Get out and give beyond your means to someone less fortunate than you. Get out of your head!
Do something life-changing today. Drop the excuses, rid yourself of complaining, and start following your dreams.
You won’t regret it.
Your best life yet is just around the corner.
And it starts with the winning attitude you develop today.