We all have them – those voices in our heads that tell us we can’t, we aren’t good enough, or we aren’t smart enough. We can train those voices through mindset practices and intentionality. It’s the negative voices that surround us that become the most difficult.
So how do we deal with the critics in our lives? Their opinions become like black holes that suck the motivation and hope from our dreams. It’s not that those people don’t want you to succeed; they’ve become jaded themselves and are unwilling to see the potential in your goals.
You may be tempted to believe them. But you need to ask yourself these two simple questions:
- Do the doubters have the lifestyle you want?
- Are they successful?
Weed the negativity out.
You must set boundaries and guard what is important in your life. Do not feel pressured to sit and listen or give value to negative voices. Choose your battles wisely. Words in the beginning will be lost to them; actions and your future success will speak the most clearly.
Avoid the complainers in your life and, when that is not possible, disarm their negativity. How do you do that?
Critics and negative people will rant for hours about all that is wrong in the world and how unjust life is. Don’t argue. Life is full of injustice, but we do not have to play the victim. We are on a path to improve ourselves and the world around us. Point out what is good and redirect the conversation. Or, if that doesn’t work, bring the conversation to a close.
Happiness loves company. I’m sure you’ve heard that misery loves company, but the same is true of happiness. To become one of the 3 percenters, you must surround yourself with people who believe in you, with people who are 3 percenters. The difference between the 97 percent and you is that the 97 percent are willing to live with mediocre.
To overcome the critics in your life, embody positivity. Learn to shut out your own negative thoughts and focus on the goals. Set up healthy goals, imitate the healthy habits of those who are successful, and surround yourself with those who believe in you.
“Dwelling on the negative simply contributes to its power.” – Shirley MacLaine
Learn to identify the critics, allow their negativity to slide off of you, confront them when necessary, and prove through your actions that your goals are achievable.
At the end of the day, rest secure in the knowledge that you are doing something good for yourself and your loved ones. You can’t win everyone over. You can’t avoid all the critics in your life. Sometimes you just have to ignore them. Remind yourself that your goals are attainable and that you are on the right path.